Letting go of struggle is about choosing to appreciate whatever life brings, about choosing to experience life in a spirit of adventure, detaching from the wish to control what happens. It is about being open to receive gifts of experience. Most of the time when you struggle, you’re choosing to experience hardship and negative emotions because you think intense feelings will be a measure of your desires and intentions. You imagine that this demonstration of intensity will have a positive effect on the outcome of the situation. But when you think about it, it isn’t very logical. How much more logical it would be to achieve a desirable outcome by responding to the flow of events with positive feelings, with joy, and with pleasure.
If you laugh, if you play, if you let yourself relax into a soothing gentle state of observing, you will see the unfolding events of your life as simply experience. You can learn that within every challenging experience in your life there is a gift, a blessing, an opportunity for spiritual growth.
There are times when life is difficult. But you can choose to reframe every difficult experience and see your experiences from a higher level. If you zoom out from the present moment, from the eternal now, and look over the entire scope, from the beginning to end of your life experience, you'll be able to see that each event, whether you initially considered it good or bad, fortunate or unfortunate, has formed a part of the critical path towards your growth and evolution.
When you begin to consciously reframe events that in the past you might have considered unfortunate and think of them instead as opportunities, you'll begin to attract many more experiences that are without any trappings of misfortune.
Claim the power of choice. Every emotion, every thought you have can be chosen from the vast vocabulary of possibilities. Use a discerning attention and choose thoughts and emotions that are joyful instead of frightening, painful or sad. You can look at each event in your life, no matter how challenging, as a doorway into a new elevation, into a higher point of view. You can see each event as a step up. You can learn to trust that you will continue to travel along a gently elevating path of growth--not only through the experiences you desire and want to create, but also through the experiences that come to you as unexpected.
Painting: James Stephens, Weeping Willow, Laughing Hyena, 2007, acrylic gouache on panel with plexiglass, 10" x 16"